Have you ever felt like someone didn’t have your best interests at heart? Wondered if there was another way you could make that person do the right thing? Did you ever want to take matters into your own hands and felt like you couldn’t? If you have ever felt this way, you’re not alone! Tamar felt this way when she was sent back to her family after the death of Onan. Heck, she felt this way before she ever married Er, the first son.
In the society she lived, Tamar like all women was considered a 2nd-class citizen at best. She didn’t have any rights; well, maybe some inheritance rights if her husband preceded her in death and then it was only if there were heirs. So, when she was sent back to her father’s house and not married off to Shelah she patiently waited on Judah, and God, to do the right thing by her. When several years had passed and still nothing happened, she took matters into her own hands.
Imagine this scenario: you are promised to a man by his father. You wait and wait trusting all the while in the words said to you. You learn that your father-in-law is in the local area and you want to seek revenge. What do you do?
Tamar, with the help of her mother, dressed as a temple prostitute, waited on the side of the road by which Judah was traveling, seduced him, and took his seed.
Imagine this: you have just prostituted yourself to avenge yourself. Little do you know that God has BIG plans for you and your progeny! That’s right, Tamar gave birth to 2 sons (Perez & Zerah) who would become ancestors of our Lord, Jesus Christ.
What a burden she must have felt she was carrying to go to such lengths.